Save the Dates — 2026

THE
LADIES
SMOKING
ROOM

Est. 2021 — San Francisco

A space to just be an unapologetically badass woman, whatever that means to you.

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Ladies. Smoking. Room.

In June of 2021, I had the fortune to stay in the St. Pancras hotel in London. If you're a Spice Girls fan (honestly who isn't), you'll know the epic staircase from 'Wannabe.' While exploring the grounds I came across a room called the Ladies Smoking Room. This image of women flocking to the smoking room to gossip, discuss how to 'manipulate' their male counterparts, decompress away from the scrutiny of the male gaze and frankly just be, felt both liberating and fascinating. How many of these women truly influenced the huge political and societally affairs of the time? How beautiful the tradition of women gathering has been?

A few months later I went through a break up and thought back to that feeling I had when I came across the room. That feeling that women have always had to rely and turn to other women for support throughout their lives. The feeling that you were truly defined as a women once you entered that room and how empowering that feeling could be.

Now there's another part of this concept I whole heartedly connect with which is the sexiness and rebelliousness that the visual of smoking woman evokes. The idea of indulging in the "thou shall nots," of society.

This is why I chose the name the Ladies Smoking Room.

While we do not sit around and smoke together (you're always welcome to outside), I hope you can find this group a space to just be an unapologetically badass women, whatever that means to you.
What's Coming

2026 EVENTS

RSVP on Partiful — don't be that girl who says maybe
Around Town

SF HAPPENINGS

Interesting talks & events — March & April 2026
House Rules

THE VIBE CODE

So this stays magical for everyone who walks in
01

RSVP & SHOWING UP

→RSVP only if you mean it. We plan headcounts, supplies, and sometimes spend real money based on who says yes. Your word matters here.
→Need to cancel? 48 hours ahead. Life happens — we get it. But don't ghost day-of. A quick message goes a long way.
→Repeated no-shows = paused invites. Cancel last-minute more than twice without a heads up, and we may pause future invites. Not personal — it's about being fair to everyone.
02

THE VIBE

→Be kind, always. This is a space where everyone should feel welcome, safe, and celebrated exactly as they are.
→Lift each other up. We're here to connect, not compete. Cheer for each other's wins and hold space for the hard stuff.
→Respect boundaries. Listen more than you assume. Ask before posting photos of others.
→Keep the drama outside. Gossip, negativity, and judgment don't have a seat at this table. If something feels off, come to the host directly.
03

NEW FACES & PLUS-ONES

→Friends of friends are welcome! We love new people. Just give us a heads up when you RSVP so we can plan.
→Make newcomers feel at home. If you see someone new, be the one who says hi first. We've all been the new girl.
→Your plus-one, your responsibility. Make sure they know the vibe. You're their host for the night.

This is your smoking room. These rules are here so every woman
who walks in feels valued, celebrated, and free to just be.

Be unapologetically you.
The Ladies Smoking Room — Check Partiful for RSVPs